I told her to just let her aunt know that she had passed along the word, which she tactfully did. My wife took my hands and said "I know why you write* and I don't care what my seventy year old aunt thinks about it." I apologized for anything I have done to humiliate her and she said "One of the things I have been learning is that our family comes first. This is what you need to do." My wife is so wonderful.
(* - Its a coping mechanism to deal with my phobia of chemicals in the lab)